I just wanted to share this little story with you... because as I shared it with a few people today, I am finding that many of us are in the same boat. (or car... as my story goes)
We carpool with a few neighborhood kids everyday. We often watch a movie and all is silent. However, I really do like the chit-chat and banter of the kids and so I often opt for no movie. And sometimes we laugh all the way to school... and sometimes... I want to rip my ears off. Often a thin line between the two. I mean we are talking about 7:15am here.
Anyway... lately I have noticed that we were all (and I sadly put myself in this category) being SO NEGATIVE. I don't think we (and this time I am mostly talking about the kids) realized that 95% of what was being said was negative, whiny, or just plain annoying. And finally, I couldn't take it anymore and snapped. And didn't have a movie in the car. And told them to remain quiet for the rest of the ride. Seriously.
When I picked them up from school, I apologized for "losing it", but told them we had to make a change and we had a lovely conversation about why. And then I bought them an ice cream cone so I am not the crazy mom that freaks out. (works every time!!)
So today I went to the car with this....
And as I said, I include myself so I also brought this...
Every time something negative was said, they got a check in the negative column and every time something positive was said they got a check in the positive comment. No consequences for negatives, no rewards for positives... let's just see how we do.
It was hysterical!! Sophie - who knew we were "rolling out" our new plan greeted everyone with the cheeriest "GOOD MORNING NEIGHBORS" {insert big smile here}. Then there were mostly contrived compliments that just cracked me up - like when Kaitlyn 1st grade told Anthony 5th grade she liked his hair very much, I thought he might just lose it. There were many "catches" as they turned a negative into a positive and we laughed almost the whole way to school.
I plan to do this at least a week... I really just want everyone to realize we need to think about what we say. Words are powerful things.
Have a POSITIVE day everyone!!


